28 February 2010

Can your children inspire you?


It was eleven years ago, I turned 43. It was my birthday but it was not a happy one. I was depressed and thinking of ways to end my life.

Our family owned organisation was in dire straits. We were in the midst of a terrible economic recession. I was struggling to maintain my sanity and preserve the outstanding image that we had painstakingly built up. There was no money left in the bank and creditors were hounding us. I regretted so many things, the huge debt we had accumulated to fund our aggressive growth to triple our capacity. The craze to be a global leader in our industry by 2010 etc.

To make matters worse our family structure had developed deep and irreparable fissures on the issues relating to how best to resolve the crisis. Completely polarised into different sub groups our world was crashing around us.

Normally happy and optimistic, I felt I was at the nadir of my life.
Of course when you head an organisation you can't just take off. Everyone aspires to get to the top and that is not a bad thing if you enjoy your work. At such times the responsibility that you shoulder is a thousand fold greater than the privileges you enjoy. So there I sat with my head in my hands on the dining table while my food remained untouched.

Then in walked my two sons from their tuitions. They greeted me, wished me happy birthday and gave me birthday cards that they had prepared. The cards were very amateurish, but the words were precious beyond any description.

Pavit wrote;
"All my friends say, that when they were little and didn't know any better, they all thought their fathers were Supermen, but as they grew up they realised that their dad were not Supermen but just men".
"I too, when I was little, thought my dad was a Superman, but now that I have turned 16 and am better informed, I still believe that my dad is a Superman. Happy Birthday".

I hugged my sons and wept. I realised that while we were teaching our children all about life, they were teaching us what life is all about.

I then recalled my wise Uncle’s words “Worries and regret never solve anything, they do not rob tomorrow of its sorrow, they merely sap today of its strength”.

This seemingly insignificant birthday card from my sons, was a powerful inspiration. An inspiration that motivates me even today.


45 comments:

  1. Gurvinder... where are you.. nice to read from you.. hope u r doing fine...
    Enjoyed reading the tits and bits of your inscriptions....Sunny, RAK

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  2. there are times in life when one questions the judgement of god and one feels as to why did it came upon me and my family of all the people in the world...specially when one thinks there are far worse people around that do not deserve what they have...but its HIS wisdom that one will not understand...its only humility one has to live with and the hope that GOD will take care...its hard to live with these words, when one is living the nightmare but time is the greatest healer.

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  3. Truly inspiring and touching. Is it any wonder that we often say child is the father of man... ...Need I say more?

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  5. Dr. Surjit Patheja said;

    Sat Sri Akal. That was very touching. It takes a very strong person to rise again from such depths. But isin't that what life is all about? Rejuvinate and live no matter what the odds.

    Guru Gobind Singh ordained in his Shabad " Desh Seva var moi eh hai" Believe in yourself, keep your faith and never give up. You will see a new dawn.

    Look to the future and dont live in the past.
    With Regards
    Surjit

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  6. Gen. Indar Ahuja said.
    I ENJOY READING YOUR BLOGS.
    Thanks,
    Indar

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  7. Nalini Garg said;

    Dear Gurvinder,

    That was a very moving account.God bless your children. Yes i agree inspiration can come your way from just about anywhere and anyone and not to mention anyhow.

    Enjoy your writing,it was very inspiring.

    Regards
    Nalini

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  8. Rashmi Bhagat said;

    Dear uncle,

    I have come to understand that the universe is designed too perfectly to let us fall out of pattern.

    The fact the u received your sons card on what was probably the lowest day of your life, and I received your email on a day when my vision and belief system were foggy, only strengthens the 1st line of my message to u.

    Thank u, for adding me to your mailing list. Thank u, for that small push when I thought my mountain was too steep.

    Love, Rashmi.

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  9. Yagnesh Buch Said

    Heyy Praji,

    You are absolutely right and I consider you a very successful human being for not what you have and possess, but for what you had and lost in unfortunate circumstances, but did not deter you to rise from that rubble to build a brand new and modern structure around you.
    This you have achieved to do single handed and in adversities of society and peer pressure.

    After all success is there fore defined by me as a situation where how fast one can spring back from a failure!

    Kudos to you Mohini and the Kids in this heroic feat of yours.

    Indeed all of u are super folks as some inspired you to be that and some one exceptional like u proved to be that!

    Keep walking man!

    Buch

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  10. Tirtharaj KHot said;

    Dear Mr Singh,

    When I saw your posting, I realised that I was deprived of an opportunity of writing to you first. Some things in life are true firsts.... This one was and I lost it to you.

    Thanks for your posting, its really wonderful.. Would love to interact on subjects on interests. I do not claim any wisdom but look forward to our interaction.

    Thanks much & Regards
    Tirtharaj
    takhot@gmail.com

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  11. Dear Mr. Khot,
    Our meeting was brief but very rewarding.
    I look forward to a mutual journey of learning and even new confusion.

    Regards & God Bless

    Gurvinder

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  12. Rear Admiral (retd) PD Sharma said;

    “The evil that men do lives after them; The GOOD is often interned with their bones!”

    No matter, press on and do good when you an opportunity to. Not many do or miss by a whisker for they COULD NOT STOP!!

    “Principles” of Lifesaving are the 4 As – AWARENESS [You observe someone, who NEEDS help and STOP] –

    ASSESSMENT [Assess what YOU CAN DO against what NEEDS TO BE DONE]. Only if the verdict is in your favour should you proceed further. But, just being by the side of a victim also helps.

    ACTION [Do the best you can]. You will benefit more by the experience than the victim. A mere thought that you might have contributed to a life being saved does not let your feet touch ground for a week!

    AFTERCARE – Reach the victim to better care, traumatized – revived – reassure and alive. Lives are saved at an accident site, not in the ICU, where one is brought in dead or alive.

    Enough for now dear friend, GODBLESS
    Purushottam

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  13. Ferzin Kothavala said;

    Gurvinder, you write beautifully-sheer joy to read your postings---ferzin

    ferzink@gmail.com

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  14. Dear Ferzin,

    I am both flattered and encouraged by your mail.
    Many thanks for your kind words and the mails you send me.

    God bless and hope to see you soon.

    Gurvinder

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  15. Prateek Tandon said;

    Thank you uncle. It was nice reading your article about your sons inspiring you

    smilingindian@gmail.com

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  17. Usha Dravid said;

    Thank you. I appreciated the piece.

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  18. Prem Gupta said;

    Thanks for the inspiring mail. really teaches us something to make our life comfortable
    thanks

    prem gupta

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  19. Vinod Simon said;

    Gurvinder Singh ji,

    A wonderful real story that inspired me! It’s really great to have children who inspire us, especially when we are down.
    I take this opportunity, to wish you and your family a very happy new year and may God make all your dreams come true

    Regards

    Vinod

    "Don't wait for extraordinary opportunities. Seize common occasions and make them great"

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  20. Dear Vinod ji,

    Your messages mean a lot to me and I thank you for your responses.
    I love your signature message.

    Here is another one from Martin Luther King
    "If you want something which you never had before.....! then do something which you have never done before"

    Wish you have an interesting and exciting 2012.

    Good Luck & God Bless

    Gurvinder

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  21. Virender Kapoor says;


    REAL GREAT PIECE!!
    VK

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  22. Virender ji,

    Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. Coming from you has more meaning for me
    Wish you and Laxmi ji a smashing 2012

    Gurvinder

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  23. Veenu Monga said;

    ssa verji hw r u ?
    have been reading your blog postings and really liked them
    they are worth reading and too good
    thanx for such writing

    hws every one at home , do give them my love
    do visit us in delhi
    wud love to see u and bhabi
    will luk forward to see more blog posts

    Veenu

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  24. Dear Veenu ji,

    Sat Sri Akal.

    You have once again confirmed thatyou are a gracious person who sees only good in people. Thanks for your kind words of appreciation.
    Have a great 2012.

    Love and Regards
    Rainy

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  25. Mohinder says;

    GOD GRANT ME ;
    THE SERENITY TO "ACCEPT" THE THINGS THAT I CANNOT CHANGE, "COURAGE"TO CHANGE THE THINGS THAT I CAN CHANGE,AND "WISDOM"TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE. ..............
    WITH GOOD WISHES

    MOHINDER KANDHARI

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  26. Gautam Hoare said;

    Once again could feels tears clouding my sight as I read your Blog ....I don’t know why but believe me please....

    May God Bless you.
    Have a Great New Year.

    Warm Regards
    Gautam Hoare

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  27. Gautam ji,

    You are a genuine person and a man of deep passion.
    Though some people are intimidated by this passion , I find your energy infectious and I enjoy our interactions even when we disagree.

    Your feedback is a great inspiration for me.
    Thank you , God bless and have a great 2012.

    Best Regards

    Gurvinder

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  28. Rajendra Patel says;

    Dear Sir,

    Wish you very Happy New Year 2012!!

    I am not sure u will recognize me we were met during Hyderabad to Pune in train.

    Just to salute sir, I am getting strength by reading your blogs...

    Pls do write.
    Thanks

    Rajendra Patel
    9850976205

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  29. Dear Rajendra ji,

    Of course, I remember our brief journey together, where I was also accompanied by my wife.
    Thank you for your kind words, which inspire me to write from the heart.

    Thank you and have a great 2012.
    God Bless
    Gurvinder

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  30. Jehangir Vakil says;

    Dear Gurvinder,

    It was a pleasure and privilige to have met you and your dear wife.
    I was just reading your blog and found it truly heartwarming and meaningful.

    Whether we do business or not is irrelevant but i know one thing for sure i've found a damn good friend in you !

    Cheers

    Jeh
    jehangir.vakil@gmail.com

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  31. Prem Gupta said;

    Thanks for the inspiring blog. really teaches us something to make our life comfortable
    thanks

    Prem Gupta

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  32. Dear Prem ji,

    Thank you for your kind words of encouragement.
    Good Luck , God Bless and have a great and interesting 2012.

    Best regards

    Gurvinder Singh

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  33. Usha Dravid says;
    Thank you. I appreciated the piece.

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  34. Dear Usha ji,

    Thank you for your refreshingly crisp messages of encouragement.
    Have a great and interesting year.

    Good Luck and God Bless.

    Gurvinder

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  35. Mohinder ji,

    Sat Kartar. & 'Gurupurabh Vadhaiya'
    Thank you for your kind words and prompt response.

    Wish you and your family all the very best for the new year.

    Gurvinder & Mohini

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  36. Anish Poojara said;

    Excellent.
    I appreciate your honesty to discuss your personal life so confidently and honestly.
    Hope to receive more of your writings.
    Anish (anish.poojara@gmail.com)

    p.s. I am forwarding your link to my friend Narayan Swamy at Citibank. Hope it leads to a friendship

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  37. Dear Anish,

    We know so little about our friends, and even less about ourselves.
    Do you realise this is the first time in such a long time , I asked what do you do professionally?
    Anway I am glad I did.

    Best Regards
    Rainy

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  38. Ajay Makharia says;

    How are you dear?
    Long time no see, longtime no hear.
    Our friend Dr. Shankar also remembers you often.

    I read your blog, I am moved by your words and I thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. I have got a lot of inspiration from your words and writings.

    Please keep in touch.
    Best of Luck
    Ajay

    ajay.orioninternational@gmail.com

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  39. Anoop desai said;

    Hi Pat,

    So true.
    Cheers to your children. I must meet them someday.

    Anoop

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  40. Sushil Dayama said;

    Dear Sir, Great article.
    YOur children are Godlike.

    I have been with you often and learnt so much which is an asset in my life.

    dayamasushil@hotmail.com

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  41. Dennis said;

    Interesting and frightening.
    I remember visiting your company with awe and pride. Proud of the accomplishments after Rangoon.
    I was just starting up and refused to go to Grad school, saying I might as well join the family business and build it.

    I set my goals watching my elders. If we can export to African, Asians and Arabs, we can sell to the aftermarket in Europe and America.

    In frustration and struggle for acceptance, I decided to do what the aftermarket distributors do in America and so Automann was born.

    Yes I am stressed and stretched out - I will be watchful, but its all up to to the Almighty 'Que Sera Sera"

    Dennis
    dennis@automann.com

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  42. Dolly Saxena said;

    Indeed very touched.

    dolly.saxena08@gmail.com

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  43. Dear Rainy,

    it was a pleasure having lunch together and knowing more of each other.
    I shall follow up with Dinesh for the waste to power project.

    Best Regards

    Tejinder Singh

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  44. Jyoti Subiah said,

    Very Nice one!! Thank you!

    Jyoti

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  45. Very touching in deed. i had the Privilege to work for Patheja Brothers in Chakan and also met with Sri.GSP couple of time after I left patheja for some business proposals. My business never took off. I do remember Mr. GSP as the energetic and charming person. I learnt my lessons and am now leading a successful life in Canada. I am sure Pathejas will also bounce back. Thanks
    Regards,
    Srinivas

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